Education & Training

 

Miss Fleur provides skill-sharing workshops, feedback and information for people already in, or thinking about entering, the adult industry


I am available for specific skill teaching arrangements, advice and information for escorts and budding BDSM providers.

I have been living and breathing professional BDSM for 16 years and counting. I was lucky enough to find and complete a traditional BDSM apprenticeship at the age of 18. I have been an independent BDSM provider since late 2004.

Unfortunately, traditional BDSM apprenticeships are rarely offered anymore in Australia. In the past, I have been vocal about my support of this method of teaching and training (you might recall my popular blog post from 2015, ‘So, you want to be a dominatrix…‘). However, I have come to realise that a traditional apprenticeship is no longer an option for most people interested in professional BDSM. An apprenticeship is also not a suitable option for escorts wanting to learn a few BDSM basics, but not follow a BDSM career path.

These days, there is a lot of BDSM safety information and there are a lot of demonstration videos available on the internet. These are an important resource but nothing can replace in-person, hands-on learning. A video can’t answer your questions as they arise, so you can’t always reap the full benefits of that person’s actual firsthand experience.

Having witnessed firsthand some alarming and dangerous practices over the years (a person landing a cane on another’s kidneys is a standout), I am now offering to share my skills and knowledge.

To make the most of our time together, it’s best if you can narrow down an area of focus or interest.

 
For example, I regularly receive emails from people asking me to teach them everything I know! Although this is an adorably cute measure of enthusiasm, it provides little in the way of transferable skills. A better email would read ‘Dear Miss Fleur, I would love to learn more about foot fetish, I have a date who loves my feet but I have no idea what to do! Also, I have another date who wants me to spank him but I’ve never really done it before.’

If you don’t have anything specific in mind, but are interested in learning about BDSM, then BDSM basics is probably a good starting point for you. I can provide an overview of a tie and tease scenario, which incorporates different BDSM aspects suitable for many kinky bedroom games, for example.

Please note: I am not offering a traditional dominatrix apprenticeship or mentorship. I am not ‘being mean’ by not offering this. The reason I don’t offer apprenticeships is twofold. Most of my clients are not ‘slaves’ and most are not comfortable with having someone watch our session (this is vital in a traditional apprenticeship). The second reason is that I’m not a high volume provider. In a typical, non-touring week I might have one or two or no sessions. This just isn’t enough face-to-face time to be of benefit to you.

Thanks for coming to my TED Talk, ‘Miss Fleur’s reflections on a much changed industry’.
 

Fees

Face-to-face: $150 for 2 hours for up to 4 providers ($37.50 each if you have 4 people). This also includes one follow-up email where I will answer your collated questions (if you have any) about what we have shared, one week after the meeting. Click here to get the ball rolling.

Advertising/Branding Only: $50 for two emails from me on your advertising/website copy/social media/branding. The initial email will have my feedback, then you can ask a bunch of questions, which I will then happily answer. Click here to get started.

Total Newbie, haven’t done sex work before: $150 for up to 2 hours by phone or face-to-face, for one person. This also includes one follow-up email where I will answer your collated questions (if you have any) about what we have discussed, one week after the meeting. Click here to find out more.

 

FAQ

Location
  • Face-to-face skill-sharing is available at my touring locations.
  • In general, this means Sydney, Newcastle, Canberra, Perth and Hobart.
  • It can happen at my hotel or serviced apartment, or at your home or incall.
  • A dungeon/playspace is not available for these mini workshops. The reason is that I don’t have my own dungeon and it would be disrespectful for me to teach you in another Mistress’s dungeon.
  • I have A LOT of BDSM gear and equipment, you won’t be missing out by not being in a dungeon environment.
  • But Miss Fleur, I want to learn in a dungeon environment!
  • That’s okay, try contacting someone who has their own dungeon. You can find this information by using a search engine.
  • Not all independent Mistresses offer private tutoring.
  • We want to book some face time but we’re in a city you don’t tour to :(
  • No problem at all, I’m happy to travel to you in any city in Australia.
  • You need to cover the cost of a return economy airfare from Newcastle airport and the cost of one night in a hotel (3 star min) or serviced apartment.
  • If your location isn’t available from Newcastle airport please add a $100 travel fee and I will fly from Sydney airport.
  • Will you bring a slave for us to practise on?
  • No.
  • After the theory part, we will practise on each other.
  • This is so that you gain firsthand experience of what things feel like. It is also a traditional method of training in BDSM.
  • I believe you should never use an implement on a person unless you have experienced it on yourself.
  • No-one is going to end up with lasting marks after the practise round.
  • Obviously consent is vital here. No-one will experience anything they don’t want to.
  • I have a slave I can bring!
  • Awesome! Head on over to my general fees page if you want to bring your personal or professional pain slut, located here.
  • In some instances, I might make an exception for play piercing, on a case-by-case basis.
  • CBT
  • If no-one in your group has a willing penis, cock and ball torture will be theory and dildo practise only.
  • Some educational groups offer CBT demonstrations.
  • I have attended CBT workshops hosted by the Sydney Leather Pride Association and I highly recommend them.
  • I work in a parlour/outdoors/for an agency
  • Perfect! Many aspects of BDSM provide a great kinky extra that you can offer.
  • There are many skills you can learn that won’t take up much room in your work bag or locker.
  • I currently work in a parlour/outdoors/for an agency and am thinking about private work
  • That’s great, I can provide an overview of how to start working privately and what you can realistically expect.
  • I want to get started in the adult industry, I haven’t done it before
  • That’s really great! I am happy to provide an overview of the industry for you, and answer any questions you might have about how to get started.
  • You might also like to contact your local sex worker organisation or project.
  • There is one in every state and territory in Australia.
  • You can find the contact information for your local org here: Australian Sex Worker Organisations
  • I want to learn about PSE
  • Wonderful! Please contact a PSE provider and expect to pay their full rate.
  • You can find this information using a search engine.
  • Not all providers offer consultations.
  • Unfortunately for you, I have no experience whatsoever with PSE.
  • I want to learn about touring internationally
  • Super cool! Please contact someone who tours internationally and expect to pay their full rate.
  • You can find this information using a search engine.
  • Not all providers offer consultations.
  • I only tour within Australia so I only have experience with that.
  • I want to learn about phone sex/camming/porn/online only or financial domination/stripping
  • Please use a search engine to find this information, as I have little to no experience in these areas.
  • I want to learn advanced rope bondage/suspension bondage/shibari
  • I have almost no interest in this area, so it’s not something I offer, therefore I can’t teach you.
  • My style of rope bondage is primarily utilitarian and floor/bed/furniture based.
  • We’re a couple and would love to learn from you!
  • Fabulous! Head on over to my dedicated Couples page, located here.
  • What will you wear?
  • If you want to ask me this question please head to my general fees page, located here.
  • I’d love to book you for my hen’s night/erotic party/festival/flying into intergalactic space
  • Brilliant! I have experience in all of these areas*, and am happy to hear more about what you have in mind.
  • Shoot me an email anytime by clicking here.
  • *Does not have experience flying into intergalactic space, but is open to it.
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